From Should to Want
We are at the 90 day mark – again. The last time we were at 90 days and counting, it was March and there were 9 months remaining to work on and accomplish our goals.
Well, you know what they say, “time flies when you’re having fun.” Of course, the truth is, time flies, period, whether we’re having fun or not.
The thing about time, however, is you never get it back. So we’ve either made good use of it or we haven’t. Each day is a gift and another chance to get it right.
I don’t know about you, but having 90 days left in the year gives me a new sense of urgency. I don’t want 2014 to arrive and 2013 goals are still hanging around waiting for attention and to be fulfilled. Next year will bring its own opportunities; God willing and the creek don’t rise as our ancestral sages used to say.
A large part of being able to accomplish anything is understanding what might be holding you back. The barriers to our ability to move forward are not always obvious. More often than not, they are cleverly disguised as something else; something harmless, or helpful or sometimes even urgent. Something we would not consciously question the validity or veracity. They are most often disguised as friends and family and work. (We’ll cover that another time)
There are plenty of excuses not to do something. I’ve heard them all and have used quite a bit of them myself. And in a few weeks, we will all have a shopping cart full of excuses. It’s called the holidays. Gifts and guests and menus will take priority, and our goals will be buried underneath.
The thing to do, however, is to keep in the forefront of your mind, why you want to do something. And it has to be a want. Shoulds are much harder to get motivated about. Wants or desires are fueled by passion. The word desire literally means “from the source”. If you really don’t want to do something, your goal probably needs honest evaluation. You might benefit from some assistance with infusing your shoulds with the needed energy to transform them into wants.
Is your goal posted where you can see it frequently, or are you carrying it around in your head as a mental note? If your goal is not where you get a daily dose of its importance to you, it is likely to fall to the bottom of your list. “Out of sight, out of mind”, is not just a meaningless phrase. It takes a lot of work to remember something that’s not in front of you constantly. It’s the basic principle behind the high frequency of television advertising, BTW.
So 90 days and counting (actually 91, but you get to take off the holy day of your faith tradition if it happens to fall in December). Are you willing to let 2014 catch you with old or partially filled goals from 2013?
How frustrated and annoyed with yourself are you going to be if you don’t at least take some small steps toward accomplishing what you want? For me, there is absolutely nothing worse than being annoyed with myself. When I am annoyed with myself, there is no one else to blame except me and the decisions I made to not do what was needed.
I am reminded of something entrepreneur George Fraser, CEO of FraserNet and publisher of Success Guide said recently that stuck with me:
“I’m not telling you it is going to be easy. I’m telling you it’s going to be worth it. Just do it and do it and do it and do it until the job is done.”
So let’s get cracking. Post that goal where you can see it. Pull out the plan you started last December. Review it, refresh it and adjust the timelines.
If your goals are shoulds that you would prefer to be wants, invest in your most valuable asset – you – and work with a coach. Give me a call or drop a note. Don’t let 2014 catch you unprepared to accept its gifts.
Life is about choices. What will you choose for you today?
Empowering Question of the Week: How annoyed with yourself are you going to be on January 1st if you haven’t accomplished your 2013 goals?